11 Truths About Sex

Brenda Della Casa

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Truth: There are no emotions in positions.
In spite of what you might have heard, doggie-style does not mean your man does not love you or respect you. Many men enjoy this controversial position because it not only feels good but satisfies their visual desires by giving them a full view of your gorgeous self. Allow yourself the freedom to enjoy the physical act without placing too much emphasis on what position goes with what emotional feeling. It doesn’t work that way.

Truth: You don’t have to look, dress or act like a porn star to be good in bed.
He might enjoy watching his favorite porn star act like a monkey in heat on-screen, but the truth is that most men want to enjoy the woman they are with when she is in her most authentic form. Though it might be fun to spice up the conversation with some saucy-talk or don some stilettos every once in a while, you should never do anything you are not comfortable doing in bed. Awkwardness, discomfort and embarrassment are as sexy as wet socks.

Truth: Perfect thighs do not guarantee perfect sex.
So you have cellulite and some spots are softer than others, join the club! The idea that a few lumps and bumps hinder sex appeal or ability is shameful; goddesses come all shapes and sizes. And because he’s so thrilled you are there with him, aliens could land on your rear and he wouldn’t notice.

Truth: Get out of bed and into the shower…the dining room…the living room.
Just the idea of being somewhere you shouldn’t be will create a forbidden vibe. Besides, anyone who has ever tried sex on the bathroom counter knows that a mirror can do everything a camcorder can do sans the embarrassment!

Truth: Foreplay doesn’t just happen right before the actual act.
Sex is sex, but build-up is sexy. A salacious text, a lingering stare or a glass of wine delivered with a subtle flash of your decollete give him a small peek into what is coming later.

Truth: Condoms can be sexy
These little lifesavers come in a variety of styles, flavors, textures and even vibrate! Find the ones that tickle your fancy and always carry one with you. Safe sex is the best sex.

Brenda Della Casa is the author of Cinderella Was a Liar (www.cinderellawasaliar.com) and Walking Barefoot (www.strollwithoutshoes.com)